Damn! You're like a wet noodle with no backbone. C'mon!
When your W starts to talk about the OM, put up a hand and say, "I will not listen to you talk about the OM for it is very disrespectful to me as your husband." Walk away.
When W tries to mosey up and cuddle on the sofa, gently remove her hands/arms from you and then move to another chair.
You MUST draw a line in the sand to convos about the OM...OMG, even talking about sleeping with him to your face!!! Where's your backbone, Rzr.
There's a time to listen and a time to be very firm.
Seriously, I don't understand why you've postponed your bike trip to Austin for you were really looking forward to it. I am wondering if you're using work as a cop-out when in reality you're doing this for W since she's made the moves on you.
No, the work thing came from people too high up to say no to. It's happened before. One of the reasons I'm looking for a new job.
Yeah, I lost my head for a bit last night. I THOUGHT I was trying to listen and pick out what she's trying to say, (don't believe what they say and all that) but I was yet again being a doormat. I finally put a stop to it, but I had let it run on too long.
I'm figuring out how F'ed up and codependent this relationship really is. She didn't lose her respect for me because I didn't handle my parents well, she lost respect for me because I let her walk all over me from the beginning.
She'll say we're distant, and want me to be around for her, and then when I am around for her, she says stuff guaranteed to push me away...
Back on the horse, try again today.
Last edited by Rzrback; 11/21/1403:09 PM.
Ex Rzrback Me 43 Her 44 D11, D15 T21, M19 BD 9/9/2014 Piecing
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