From my own experience and many thousands of dollars wasted, the best thing you can do is minimize you your costs in the divorce. How I would handle this is to tell your lawyer upfront that you have minimal money and no way to get more. Instruct him that you want him to minimize his time as much as possible. That you will not pay for things that you do not authorize. I would minimize contact with H as much as possible. He will grab onto everything right now.
Are you in the discovery phase of the divorce? If not then I would ask your lawyer if you have to even respond till a proposed divorce agreement has been presented. If you filed for the divorce, then get going drafting a divorce agreement with your lawyer. If her filed, then sit back and do nothing till his lawyer forwards one to your lawyer. It is the responsibility of the person who filed to craft it unless you both can work together.
Is his attorney sending things to you directly? If he is then inform your attorney and ask him to inform H's lawyer to not contact you directly.
Do this to separate yourself from his madness. Let him incur as much expense on himself as he wants. Don't let him drive up your bill.
Come here and ask questions as you go along. I am sure there are plenty of us who have paid dearly for this experience.
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