3 months after BD, the roller coaster ride hurts

[Vanilla]

Devotee

I am replying to your post on your thread rather than mine as I wanted to read your sitch first.

Thank you for your support.

If you have read my sitch you will know my H is compulsive including alcohol, which he dosn't want to give up. Alcohol messes with the mind and physiology of the body. It can make MC almost impossible because you are dealing with the views of the alcohol not the drinker. I can't tell how far down the road your H is and probably neither can you.

You need extra help if your H is alcoholic or a borderline. I would strongly suggest you contact an AA support group for loved ones of alcoholics to determine if there is a very serious issue. This will give you support for you. AAnon is free and there are usually online support options, please make a call. They may also know how you can get medical help too. Please don't fall into the alcohol trap yourself, it can become easy to do.

This is a harder road because of H's use of alcohol.

You must first and foremost put you first. I can only repeat what Sandi and MrBond said to me. Protect yourself and if you are in any way at risk of physical abuse- get away.

Prepare

Vanilla