Need help. Jefe's always confused. Pt 6

[Jefe]

"You MUST let go of the idea that the kids will guilt your W into coming back. They won't. Maybe they can penetrate the fog enough that she'll start meeting their needs better. That would be a very good thing. And you have to do whatever you can to help them feel secure and loved in their current environment, without blaming anyone for the state of their environment. That's loving."

I actually thought I let go of that idea long ago, but I guess if I just asked that question, I didn't. I agree with RPP sometimes, though on the craziness of the entire situation.

Thank you Maybell.

Another thing I hear a lot of people talk about on these boards is how they finally get to do what they wanted to do now, or watch what they want now, or decorate a room the way they choose.

I'm starting to wonder if there is something wrong with me. I was content with my marriage. I was an ass, but I was content. I have no burning desire to go changing this all around. Guess I should have done a mush better job of expressing my contentness. Just thinking out loud.