I want to help you, but when I was in your wife's position all that I wanted was for my H to be really present, helpful, and involved. And I didn't hate pregnancy and enjoyed breastfeeding. My H had no opinion on the kids' television watching. And to throw in the BC stuff?
I don't know what to tell you, but I hope you somehow communicate some BIG changes to her consistently over time along with a tremendous amount of respect and appreciation. I know what my resentment baggage felt like. I'd guess hers was at least double.
Sorry you're hurting, I wish I had more solid advice. I hope you really have started seeing things with more empathy.
Me42, H40 D12, S8, S7 A revealed: 7/13 Sep 4/14; Agreed to D 1/15
