Wife has left and filed for divorce

[Hoju]

I agree that your W and MIL handled the situation poorly, however it really does show you the hurt they both feel, there first reaction was to call the police over a small misunderstanding.

I hope one of the vets can weigh in with regards to talking to MIL. Personally if you take responsibility and just apologize for the confusion that would be fine. It might be a very good 180 for you too owning up and taking responsibility for your faults regardless of if they were intentional or not. Just don't put any of the blame on MIL or W for unnecessarily escalating the situation.