Newcomer Living in Hell 2

[MrBond]

I appreciate your standing for your M. However there are a number of reasonings that you've come to that you should dispel.

When you first got here you posted ... "Over the years I broke her spirit w/my critical nature and anger."

Now you said "years". Not days or weeks, but YEARS. That's why she doesn't believe in your changes. She probably tried to get you to change before or to bring it up to you so you wouldn't keep hurting her, but you didn't listen and probably became even more angry and critical of her.

And now because you've "suddenly" woken up, you expect her to fall back into love with you just because you've made a few cosmetic changes. Doesn't work that way.

All that stuff about you being a Christian man, etc. doesn't mean anything because you only became that after she left. Now suddenly you seem to act holier than thou and see her as a terrible woman when she had to put up with so much over years.

"i sincerely want the best for her right now and its ME."

This comment especially seems very judgmental. She thought that when you first got married, but not any more. A little more humility and compassion on your part will go a long way.