Hi Wonka! It's hard for me to know since unlike the past, I don't really know any other parents since I live so far. W hasn't met any of D14's friends or parents as of yet and if things stay the same as history she won't. One of the things that was really hard when she went into MLC was how she just refused to socialize with other parents or even take D14 to events like parties or sleep overs so she didn't really know the other parents. I, on the other hand did get to know them all rather well since I was always the one taking her. I'm sure once I start to go to D14's events I'll met up with some of the other parents and may be able to arrange something on days that her mom doesn't take her.
I know W's thoughts and priorities are her own and she can decide for herself what is important and what isn't but I just don't get how unimportant she seems to think D14's needs are. this morning I found out from D14 her mom is wanting her to do something with her and her father and his W for Thanksgiving. D14 is NOT happy about that and would rather go to see her sister with me. She said that when she told her mom this W got upset and started going on about how her sister is messing up and how she shouldn't be living where she is ect. D14 said that she took her sisters side and told her that if she moved she would most likely move in with me. That the fact that she wouldn't even have her own space at her mom's would be hard. That her sister is working hard and going to school where she is now and that she couldn't do that if she did what her mom wants. She said she thinks she won the argument because her mom got really quiet but then she went back to saying how she is just "wrong". I just held my tongue and listened and validated, never said a word about her mom. (not easy but I did it).
Well, what I don't get is I thought her father was too sick to travel but now is coming for TG? How my W knows that I would like D14 to come with me and said that so far she was fine with that. I guess she changed her mind again, oh, well. Should have expected it wouldn't be easy. Not something I can think about now. I really need to just keep working on making money and getting the new job!
