Thanks for the reply. I am sorry your STBX behaves that way.
It is indeed a bitter, bitter pill to swallow, but if other DBers are surviving it, then I hope I can as well. I don't even know if it will happen: so far, OMs involvement in my kids' lives is only theoretical. It is just one of my biggest fears and insecurities. OM is shallow and never seemed to like children - not even his own. I don't know what my W sees in him. I can always hope that my bright children will eventually see through his facade. I do not think he is interested in my W in the long term anyway. I certainly do not think he would be interested in taking care of five children - in addition to his four.
As far as criminal behavior, he has buzzed by me in his car a few times when I was out running, but I do not have any evidence supporting this. I have recorded the dates, times and circumstances in my journal, and if he does it again, I will call the police and tell them. I know LBS tends to falsely ascribe supernatural powers to OM, but I really do think he is wicked. I have reached out to my atty to see if they can do a criminal background check.
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Maybe some others have managed to set some effective boundaries around this, and if they have, I hope they chime in.
others, please please please chime in. Especially if you have strategies for 1) setting boundaries, and 2) overcoming the fear of competition from a potentially hostile OP.
Thanks again RAI
P.S. What does "dropped the rope" in your signature line mean?
