Yes, Toots, I think I will get some use out of it.

Twin, I have been really reflecting on what you said.

"self righteous, arrogant and condescending"
I am an alcoholic. I am all of those things. You also left out selfish, manipulative, jelous, and a host of other charicter defects that I am guilty of. I am aware of it, working on it and How I wish I could make it all go away overnight.

I don't want to punish my wife, I have forgiven her already. I own a huge majority of the blame here. Hope414 has most certainly been calling me out on my self righteous indignation. I am doing the best I know how to do. I welcome 2x4's because I genuinely want to fix myself and save my marriage.

Thank you for taking time to respond.

Me 47 - W 35
M 9 - T 10
2 Daughters - 7 & 9
Discovery of EA- 8/4/14
S - 8/5/15
D mentioned - 9/11/14
R & Piecing - 3/17/15
Regard one another as more important than yourselves.
- Philippians 2:3