Does anyone know how I can proceed here while still following DB principles? I reread several sections of DR last night and all I can see is "after the LRT". She wont end the affair, sees nothing wrong with her actions, and (if I am to gather via BFF) sees herself as a prize that I have simply lost by not being happy enough. Even though she herself is miserable. There is certainly truth in that, but all I have done for the past 3 months is make progress in the right direction on all fronts.
Am I wrong to act on emotion right now? Should I initiate a talk tonight?
It just kills me that I am still portrayed (according to these texts from BFF) as hanging on, trying to win her back, pursuing etc etc. I have distanced myself from her as much as I possibly can with her still in the house and doing very little to pull her weight. I cant go any darker with her sleeping 15 feet away from me.
What could you say that hasn't already been said? Why would this talk work when others haven't?
There is a tiny paragraph in Divorce Remedy she calls "after the LRT". But mainly it comes down to deciding if you want to live in an open M or not. When the WAS refuses to end the A, you have two choices. When you decide enough is enough is up to you.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
