I agree fthnluv about the fallout with the children. In my sitch, H moved away so the aftermath of H's behavior is 100% on my shoulders. Because my girls are older they can detach a bit easier but the undercurrent of their emotions makes them vulnerable at a time when the decisions of the first man in their life represents so much.
The mess is never ending but I'd still rather be me.
M:25 years at BD w/ 2 daughters BD: 5/14 Separated 6/14 - H moved cross country w/OW D Final 9/17
“I can be changed by what happens to me. But I refuse to be reduced by it.” ― Maya Angelou
