3 months after BD, the roller coaster ride hurts

[devotee]

So I'm looking for some insight on what next steps to take.
I know my main focus right now should be "me", but I'm also wondering how do I handle my H who now wants to be just friends. We live together so we're around each other constantly. He's unemployed right now and I only work 2 days and 3 nights a week. That's a lot of time we'll be together in the house. Plus I'm kinda couch bound for the most part while my ribs are healing. So... We hang out next to each other in the living room and watch a lot of TV. I still sleep in the bedroom and he's on the couch. There's no affection or intimacy. He hasn't pushed the separation or move drastically, mainly because he's not working and is too depressed to be motivated. I don't want to encourage him because I'm hoping the more time that goes by, there may be more chance of him working through his crap and changing his mind again to come back to working on the relationship. Do we just hang out in limbo land as long as we can? Is it a waste of time? Should I push for us to get a move on so I'm not sitting here suffering? I don't feel like we're making a decision towards either direction... Is that ok to be stagnant and just let it be?