Does anyone know how I can proceed here while still following DB principles? I reread several sections of DR last night and all I can see is "after the LRT". She wont end the affair, sees nothing wrong with her actions, and (if I am to gather via BFF) sees herself as a prize that I have simply lost by not being happy enough. Even though she herself is miserable. There is certainly truth in that, but all I have done for the past 3 months is make progress in the right direction on all fronts.
Am I wrong to act on emotion right now? Should I initiate a talk tonight?...
Hi 1foot2,
Yeah, it bugs me too that my W feels she is doing nothing wrong when she dates other men, while we are still married. So I understand your frustration with your W not seeing anything wrong with her affair. BUT...
Don't listen to BFF. Don't listen to anything your W says or tells to anyone else. You don't think your W is feeling bad about her actions? Then why is she miserable?
And keep the focus on yourself. You've made progress, and seem to be doing really well. At this point you are doing this for yourself, and any future R that you (with your W or with any future relationships that you have.)
So to answer your question, yes, stay patient, and keep working on yourself. You are worth it.
