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[Barrybran]

Journaling:

Things are continuing downhill. A couple of household bills are due today and tomorrow and I contacted my wife, who is visiting family on the other side of the country, to ask about how we go about paying them. Pretty standard questions but she jumped down my throat and I wasn't very happy with her tone. I got the information I needed and the bills were paid.

During the discussion, I found out that my wife hadn't been putting money into our bills account as we had discussed. While she was unemployed, I transferred the lion's share and she was to top it up with the government family support payments she receives. She told me that we had insufficient funds to pay the rent and I had to breathe before responding because I was pretty unhappy with this information. Long story short, my wife feels that it is too difficult to manage two households worth of bills and asked me to contact the welfare agency to discuss my options to support myself. In a nuthsell, she's thrown it in the too-hard basket. I'm actually happy about this. My wife has always been difficult to work with where money is concerned and receiving my own family support payments will give me some certainty over how I can feed my family.

My long term goals are still the same but I'm comfortable with the short term. I need a break from my wife and I need greater control and certainty over my short term future. From a day-to-day standpoint, things are great. My boss has helped me keep my hours at work while reworking my roster so I can spend more time with my family. My kids are very well behaved, aside from a few trust issues with D4, and they're loving spending time with our babysitter, who has been fantastic. I'm also on top of my uni work, which I feared most as it was hard enough studying with an extra person in the house. I've got things really well organised here and things are going swimmingly.