So how exactly does one work on the when it seems I'm back to where I started with an uninterested partner? The weekly date nights are no longer planned by him, he is not nearly as affectionate as he was and I pointed this all out in October and I've continued to see it spiral as time has progressed
I am committed to my M but I need someone to be in this M with me. I need to let go of his at with OW but it's hard when someone isn't trying like he was. Because I know he is capable of the behavior and actions that I need from him to help me move forward.
I hate to sound like negative nancy but it's just the situation I find myself in. I'm trying to fix things on my end which is why I come here for advice
I've read DR multiple times and as recent as 2 weeks ago trying to figure out where I'm going wrong that his behavior changed. But he hasn't done the real work. Despite me not mentioning a peep about what he makes he still sees me as that person prior to BD. That all I care about is money. I've come to realize I can't change his perception about me because that is his reality. I have made a conscious effort since August to not bring up how much he makes/doesn't mske and the fact that I actually pay more than he does. We haven't discussed it because I don't want to be viewed as that person but last night it was made clear that he still views me that way. It's very hurtful because I have tried to change. Especially in regards to that. Where all this leaves me I really don't know. I know he has some major work to do to be in this R too and I don't want to be doing this alone
