Yeah, I can't fix her at all....I let go of that notion long before we even began speaking again. I can try to HELP her where I can, but I can't reach in and put back together anything that is/was broken or generally out of whack.
I think the challenge for us will continue to be restoration, rebuilding and the communication therein. I had IC last night and C told me that I am much farther down the path of healing and healthy relationships than XWGF is. As such my ability to communicate, take criticism lovingly, and to openly love is a bit stronger than hers. She is still wounded and try to heal...I have been in IC for over a year and lord knows the folks here are good for whipping you back into shape/line. So when she asks for "honest and open communication" I think she wants it to be 2-way, but it isn't yet. We will get there, but for now I am going to have to be patient as she works through her stuff....the relationship "stuff" that I have already tackled as well as the other stuff that is bubbling up from her past. My C said "you deserve a lot from her, but you aren't going to get it at this moment".
That is not to say that things aren't going well. We have made a lot of progress. Thankfully, I know that progress in this arena is not linear - and things will go a few different directions.
