You didn't answer my question. Why do you NEED this information and what purpose does it serve?
It will help on how I handle the future. I may need to start protecting myself legally/financially.
Suppose she says, right now, that yes, she's seeing someone on the side.
How does you having a CONFIRMATION of an affair change what you can control, what you can't, and how you react?
Currently it will not change how I react. I am currently assuming that she is having an A of some sort. However, if sometime in the near future I resort to what Robx did I will need to have as much information as possible. Also, if for some reason she ends up going the D route I will be better off financially if I have independent proof of an A. I am of the belief that more information is better even though it goes against the DB principals. My W is my office manager and has total access to business and home financials. She has been on a spending spree for the last 6 months and I do know that some of our money is going to the OM. I do not know how much because she has always handle all the money, both business and home since we were married.
W-44,M-57 Married 20 D-17,S-13 W and I own our own business and work together.
