Let's try this again

[woundedfool]

Woundedfool, can you weigh in...?

T shows up here every time she has a hill she's thinking of dying on, and we here never hear about the good times. It raises the question for me of how committed SHE is to the marriage now. I get it, it's reasonable... But maybe addressing that would help her cope with all these bumps with less urgency?

I think that it is a fair observation, while it is natural in our situations to search here for solutions to problems (or hiccups); it would be better to see the issue before it is a problem.

I hope this doesn't come off as condescending TO324 or a dig... but it is true, you do seem a bit on auto-pilot. I said this a while ago: You were the only one putting in work for the M, your not done working, its just you now have a partner to help you with the work.

I have tried to encourage others (and you) to re-read DR and DB over and over again. To get each part engrained into your memory, and be able to see parts that have evolved, and with that evolution, look at them through a different perspective.

Its kind of like working out or weight loss, you start to achieve part of your goal, and then you rest on your laurels, and pretty soon you are back into old habits. Stay on track, keep focused. There is still lots of work to put in.

But YES, TO324 you have not shared much of (now that I think about it, if any of) your successes. So in the spirit of Maybell's post/question:

TO324, tell us some of the good parts (don't spare the smallest accomplishment) and don't worry about the feeling of rubbing others noses in it. Sometimes its good amongst friends to create a little jealous envy: