Trying to stay patient- part 7

[Zues126]

Tar...I don't recall how you ended up deciding what live decided. I've been operatin under the 30 day rule. When the day comes that my feelings about something remain consistent for a full month then I trust them. As long as I'm conflicted and my feelings roller coaster, I hold off on actions that are irreversible.

I served my STBX with separation papers. I could've done that months earlier, but I held off for a while for me to feel confident it was what I wanted. I did NOT file divorce. She might. I might down the road. But I was really taking my time.

This is a marathon. I've become OK with limbo. I don't want to date others right now. Why do I need a D finalized? For closure? To send her a message?

I say let go, GAL, move on, act as if you were D, but let her drive the ship. Of course if there are legal reasons that's different.

Good luck!