Mozza (5)

[Mozza]

25yearsmlc - First, thank you so much for "adopting" me. I appreciate that you stop by and care enough about my sitch to spend some of your precious time helping me figuring it out.

I've decided to drop the pictures. Asking for them would be like saying "You're still so disorganized!" I take tons of them and these school pictures are not that good anyway. I'll have my own session with the kids. I'm still conflicted about not voicing any of my needs, be it just the kids pictures I ordered and she's not giving me, for fear of provoking any negative feeling in her.

And it reminded me of how you'll also say you are having success at being LESS critical...right after you cut her down again. Try to catch yourself doing it, and then it'll be easier to change. And when you replace the negative things you do NOT want to say or do, you will need to learn some new POSITIVE behaviors to replace the negatives one with...okay?

Are you saying I should not be critical of her at all on these boards either? And in my heart? Honest question. I find it interesting.

That just feeds the idea that you said something odd. You did not. Move on...

Thanks for this. Moving on.

Here's a 2 x 4...LET IT GO. She said Nothing indicating that she does not care about you. This is just a huge over reaction on your part. I don't know if this is a trait of yours

I never thought about it before, but perhaps overreacting is one of my traits. I did get upset quickly and could calm down much faster than her -- this was an issue because she'd been upset that I got angry and I'd be upset she wouldn't try to resolve the fight. It makes me controlling of the fights: I decide when they start and when they end. I'll note that down on my list of issues.