Addiction is a hard, hard thing to deal with. There's nothing one can do or say to "fix" the person they love, as much as they wish it could be so. As the adage goes, usually people have to hit rock bottom to change and it's very easy to relapse if there's no constant support system in place.

An addict is always an addict, forever, even if they're not currently abusing, so programs like Alcoholics Anonymous are a god send to help keeping those that want to live addiction free continue to do so.

For YOU, I suggest looking into a AlAnon (or AlATeen)program near you, which caters specifically to the FAMILY of alcoholics and addicts.You can Google to find one. You'll find support and understanding there -- even if you don't plan to stay with your H, it will be a benefit to you and your kids to help you move forward with your lives and find some peace.



ME: 38
BF: 40
T: 10y, no kids, no M (by choice)
BD: 7/14/14, BF admits to PA, wants out, lies about new R.
10/1/14: I move out, BF lies about move in with OW
12/4/14: OW confronted, reveals all the lies