Yes, we've had dust-ups and anger and all the stuff that makes us human. On occasion I've had "What the hell was I thinking?" pop-up because it's work to have an adult R. But the good outweighs the bad by far.
The difference now is we work to solve it, not just close our eyes, insert fingers in our ears while repeating loudly "I can't hear you"
I try to approach difficult things from a place of love, not anger. It's as simple as letting the anger pass and having the discussion in the context of "this person loves me" as opposed to "what was that all about, a$$hole?" That doesn't mean we don't express anger, just in a different way.
She has a lot of stuff to wade through and it'll be a long, slow process. Eat your Wheaties everyday and continue to strengthen your emotional boundaries.(wow, that takes me back to our early days here with all the boundaries discussions we had)
You can't fix her.
Last edited by labug; 11/19/1402:47 PM.
Me 57/H 58 M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13
Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do. I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering. Caroline Myss
That doesn't mean we don't express anger, just in a different way.