After reading the books and reading this forum it all comes back to detachment. I must detach and sending a card could definitely set that process back. It is a really awkward time with all of this so new and financial issues not settled. Since MLC is all about lost youth, reminding him he is a year older is not a good idea either?
I my sitch I am already so removed from H because of distance. It is a blessing and a curse. 180's are easier but he isn't seeing them. GAL is happening but he has no idea what my life is like and he doesn't talk to anyone else either. I mean I could be 40 pounds lighter and on the Olympic volleyball team.
H only talks to OW. He treats everyone in his life the same. No one else hears from him. That is why I worry. I just want him to know the road home is not blocked. I love him enough to let him go but I don't want him to forget about us either. How do you remind someone with MLC that the door to their marriage, home and family is not bolted shut?
M:25 years at BD w/ 2 daughters BD: 5/14 Separated 6/14 - H moved cross country w/OW D Final 9/17
“I can be changed by what happens to me. But I refuse to be reduced by it.” ― Maya Angelou
