Claire. Thanks for the post. You must have been reading my mind.
I don't want to sound like a whiner because I know a lot of people would love to be where I am but I don't want to be here with someone that isn't putting in the effort. He had shown me in August and September he would do anything snd he has slowly backed off from that and I see old habits coming out in him and now this. He talks with my grandmother who we are going to see weekly and just told Her last week how excited he was so its not that.
So anyway I tried to 180 this. I ended up texting him that I would cover the money he would lose on not working so that he could come. I told him I picked up an OT shift and would cover it that we just wanted him to come. He explained that he needed to work thanksgiving too! Um huh? So I called him so we could talk. He sent me to voicemail. I got home he's sitting on the couch the boys are in bed and he hasn't said a word to me. He has his head down in his phone texting.
I ended up taking a long shower and am in the kitchen cleaning. Ugh why is this so difficult. Sometimes I wonder if he regrets coming back. Especially with this behavior. I really don't want to drive alone 10 hours with the boys each way in potential snow.
