I reviewed the texts messages and they are interesting. Your wife went from 0 to 100 pretty quick. What is also interesting is her behavior the next day—she texted an apology and then called. This indicates a recognition that she may have stepped over the line.
This may surprise you but her behavior is unusual.
Most people on this web site will tell you they do not receive this level of an apology after an abusive exchange. At most they may receive a text. But your wife’s actions (a text followed by a phone call) indicate she may be genuinely concerned her behavior could have an impact on your relationship.
Do not jump to the conclusion she wants to reconcile. But recognize her behavior doesn’t indicate she is pushing away.
The escalating nature of her texts indicate she may have been having a tantrum.
Remember that I told you to check for randomness and before you replied to step back and analyze. I said “If the text isn't about you don't make it about it about you.”
Did you notice any randomness?
How did the conversation begin with Amazon and 3 messages later...with no input from you...suddenly become about where the girls are going to live and who is paying child support when you are divorced?
Jefe…no one has filed for a divorce.
Why did you take the bait? She lured you into a false discussion with a false reality.
Again—no one has filed for divorce. There is no custody. There is no child support. Therefore the appropriate response should have been:
Jefe: Hey…Are you okay?
You should have shut the discussion down and changed the subject. If she kept bringing up divorce and child custody then you should have kept redirecting it back to her until she told you why she was discussing this topic.
You should not have been having this discussion until you knew why you were having this discussion. And the only person who could tell you why you were having the discussion was your wife.
