o say i still love W, somewhere, but o say we have not been good to each other for too long now o say that I want to divorce, proceeding by us both doing the paperwork before I return to the US again, telling the kids (exactly when is up for discussion), and selling the house in the spring. o saying i would like to date again, but cannot in good conscience do this while married.
The fine point is defining exactly when we are no longer married. I can imagine a passionate response on her part to the effect of that we have not been married for a long time already.
I can also imagine that us signing the divorce form will make this very real for both of us. All sorts of practical and financial considerations will arise, such as who pays for the house while we still share it. I make 80% of the income but perhaps being divorced means splitting 50/50. My sister has been most concerned about the money part.
