@Goat: Your 2 cents is worth far, far more than that.
These are some of the exact same thoughts I had one my way to the date and all the way back as well.
Going into it, I was plain that I was not looking for anything more then some innocent company. I mean it when I say I want nothing more than to be with my wife. The guilt I felt tells me that these are not just words. While my wife may not feel the same way right now (or ever again), I know that I do and I need to be true to myself.
I am not even remotely close to getting into a relationship other than my marriage. I will fully admit to being very, very lonely and not feeling all that positive that I will be able to work things out with my wife. But i will also admit my greatest weakness...I'm very much in love with my wife. There is no doubt about that.
So, you're preaching tho the choir, so to speak. I hear your words and they are echoed by my own thoughts. No more dates. At least not for a long while.
Thanks Goat. I do appreciate you tossing your hat in the ring. Your words ring true.