Since you're clearly not ready to be involved with another woman because of the freshness of your sitch, and the fact that you are still in love with your wife, ask yourself:
Is it really fair to salve your emotional wounds at some other woman's expense?
It's one thing if you're making it clear that your intent is just to make new friends. (But then, that's usually not called "dating". )
I just have to say that most of us who are going through emotional turmoil have very little to offer to another. And they are the ones who WE could end up hurting.
Just something to think about.
Not only that, but if your goal is to reconcile with your wife, being seen in the company of other women (like on a "date") is not wise.
It will cloud your feelings for your W as you bask in the ego-stroking experience of someone new who is attentive and warm.
And if your W gets wind of it, it could be the wind that goes into her sails and pushes her right out of your life. No guilt for leaving you now, you're already getting busy...
Know what I mean?
I'm all for making female friends and "taking names" that may be useful down the road if you can't R with your W. But I think most of the vets here would agree that "dating" is a bad idea right now.
What is a GREAT idea is to get involved in group activities with both men and women, so you're not on a "date" but you can enjoy the fun an companionship of like-minded people of both genders.
Just a word of caution.
That said, I totally understand how darn NICE it feels to be appreciated by the opposite sex after the treatment some of us have gotten. While a little of that is a good thing to help us remember that we are not the rejects our S's have led us to believe we are, it's also playing with fire.
It then contrasts heavily with the treatment we're getting from our S's, and that is an unfair comparison.
This is how many affairs start. With a fantasy, some ego-stroking, attraction... but mostly, it's built on dust. But it feels good, so people do it.
I think the thing to do is focus on being better yourself as a super-cool INDIVIDUAL, and if and when the time comes, the ladies will follow.
That said, I have been compiling a list of eligible men should I end up divorced. But until then, it's groups only, and totally in the Friend Zone.
---(G)GGG
PS: But hey--that "date" was a real red flagger, huh? The SHERIFF???? Hoo-boy. Talk about signing on for a lot of drama there....
Me 54 Him 63 M 23 T 29 0 Kids Funny Farm of Rescues 12/12 OW-- 5/13 ILYBINILWY: A denied 9/13 Proof OW: ENDED 2/14 Got D papers on my BD I kicked him out for my sanity 9/14 He wants to "talk"?
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