Spinning my wheels, but laughing all the way

[Azagtoth]

SP,

Thanks for commenting on my thread!

Sorry to see everything you are going through, especially in regard to your visitation with your Daughter! Similar to yours and others, we have a very detailed parenting plan in writing that has specifics. Although we have a clause to allow us to rearrange / swap days mutually, we have to stick to the plan when all else fails!

Does your plan allow your vacation at any time, or specific times? How much notification do you have to give? What are the conditions, if any, can either of you deny the vacation plan of the other?

Completely understand you wanting to avoid any tension and being amicable, but it is obvious she is taking advantage of that and being selfish with what she wants! Only way to counter that, if all else fails, is hold her to the agreement! If she won't, you can always have the court enforce it if you choose!

As far as the phone calls, I agree with call her anytime you want to communicate! I know she is only 8, but have you considered possibly a phone (maybe pre-paid) for you to call her on? This way you don't have to call the house phone and inadvertently have to talk to the X; you can talk to your D directly! This is what I do; and my D can call or text me any time, any day she chooses and my X has no say in the matter; I was VERY clear to her that D's phone is Mine / D's property and none of her business! X is never to touch it since I pay for it! Just an idea!

W, no longer has an attorney. She feels that I can simply have my attorney finish up the paperwork and finalizing. She placed that in my lap, while she makes wedding plans. I do not find it in my best interest, to pay my attorney to do all of the work, charge me hundreds and hundreds of dollars, just for the opportunity to write large checks made out to STBXW.

Couple of questions on this:

1) Do you live in one of those states that awards permanent alimony or something similar? Why would you being paying her anything besides CS if she is planning / going to be married? This doesn't sound right to me. Aside from any laws specific to your state, alimony typically ceases or is no longer awarded when the wife remarries!

2) If she has no lawyer, then that means she is going to be Pro-Se! Looks like a good opportunity for your lawyer to put your interests to work. If she is going to drop it on your lap, then might as well get it all in your best interest! Again, just my opinion!!!

Best of luck and keep your head up and moving forward!


Azagtoth