H's bday is next week. It's a big one. Not sure how to handle things. The girls do not want to send him a gift or card. I am neutral with them but I am struggling with all of this. I mean I am LRT. I am dark. Our attorney's are negotiating a separation agreement and it is contentious. Not acknowledging his bday is not who I am then again....

DBusting doesn't address birthdays. Any thoughts? This is so new and right now he is avoiding life. He only talks to OW. I have no expectations but it feels awful not to acknowledge his birthday. The fact is we are not friends right now. Should I let it go?


M:25 years at BD w/ 2 daughters
BD: 5/14
Separated 6/14 - H moved cross country w/OW
D Final 9/17

“I can be changed by what happens to me. But I refuse to be reduced by it.”
― Maya Angelou