Wife walked away (4 months ago now) thread 3

[BigMac]

When she left, she had the financial security check box checked in her mind with credit cards, and a myth in her head (this cost of living calculator that she found) about how much further her money would go out in Tx, as well as the idea that she would have me over the coals with Alimony in our source state.

When she left, she was pressuring me into allowing an Open Relationship (To quote her, she wanted "Road Clam" and to see whether that hot guy in the bar would "do her"

She absolutely wants to be wanted. When she is feeling low she will normally post a selfie of her face to get positive comments on social media. Same thing with going out and wearing a low cut shirt.

I'm not a Psychologist, but she always has to have a source of narcisitic supply. I think that is the role the OM played. Have someone to pursue her, and validate her. He makes practically no money, she was giving him gifts, playing the sugar mama role.

Now that the divorce is being handled in TX, alimony is off the table (the courts believe that when a couple divorces here they should be independent people). As well as her credit cards are maxed out, her "needs" have changed.

Also, how I act towards her has changed. I had to be very timid until the case got moved out here, since it got moved out here I have been able to stand firm on my boundaries, and follow Sandi2's rules to a T.

So, the Alpha confident man that she knew long ago has made an appearance in full. I am living my life quite well. I would figure she see's me as a viable alternative now (though I agree w/ Sandi2 that she has not seen the error of her ways).

I'm not dumb enough to fall back into that trap.