Oh my I needed that laugh- thread fight- love it!! I probably look very weird laughing out loud while I'm by myself at a table for lunch- but whatever!!
I decided to take a "me day" and I'm enjoying it!

So Shining- that whole still blaming ourselves- I get it. But I've also figured out why. Many of us are fixers, and I remember reading on your thread somewhere that everything you wanted previously- you MADE it happen! I am that person too- I don't fail. Probably a result of unhealthy perfectionistic tendencies that I think will protect me from being disapproved of or abandoned, but hey, what perfectionist isn't messed up???
It s¥ck$ donkey balls but we can't perfect our way through fixing them and we couldn't perfect our way from preventing this either. I love AJs quote above.

Don't be so hard on yourself! ( said to myself too as I need daily reminders).

Me 41 H 40
M 20 T 23
S 19,16, 8 D 13
BD1 dec 2012 not sure going to work
BD2 sep 2013 seeking a D
Filed oct 2013, D Feb 2015
Life is about daring greatly, about being in the arena- Brene Brown