Ok I get it .. last nights texts hurt, however .... you have to put aside the pain and hurt when it comes to the kids, keeping her in the dark ... regardless your intentions or reasons does look like its a form of punishment. "this is what a divided home looks like." ok .. its very well be you venting but look at this comment, you are hurt and upset and this does come off as it being her fault here, something to think about, how inviting is this? How would this be paving a smooth way back? Its creating guilt and using it as a weapon ... I know this because it was a big part of my arsenal early on. Does not matter if you actually say it or not .. its in that head and will be a go to during a backslide. Just watch that one ok?
