BD and 6 months later PA confirmed (2)

[Bunches]

So I didn't realize I was going into a zone of crazy agitated W.

I'm at work just getting things done and this text conversation from W asking for all the info on where we were going to live after the move, what school, what daycare, etc. I tried to let her know that wasn't all settled yet. I only got a solid offer on Friday for the job and needed to be sure we weren't going to have a problem first. She sent me this huge text saying she was trying to make the best decision she could and needed all the facts. I tried to explain I was just trying to get the agreement in place before setting plans that I would need to count on and trying to re assure her that she would be part of the process and given all info to help make decisions about schooling as it is fair.

That's where I'm pretty sure I lost her. I got this reply:
"You don't seem to understand what you are asking of me. You come to me wanting my cooperation to basically take our son away from me and everything he knows. You may have been primary care taker for the last year, but I was for the previous 5. I carried him for 9 months, I've jumped at the chance to spend as much time with him as possible through all of this and help you in any way I can. Yes, I have been less than perfect and made some mistakes, but me needing to make a decision like this especially in a time sensitive manner is not simple. I'm trying to work through emotions and still set that aside so I can do what's best. You are thinking about you and S, I am thinking about me and S."

After that she yelled at me on the phone for a bit while I tried to calmly explain the expectation I had for moving forward here. I don't know what else I can do here. I'm so tempted to just file uncontested and try for a custody order. She makes me so crazy...like this is my fault we are where we are.