my wife requests space, deattached from me

[WillDo]

I haven't read the book but have followed the articles, videos out there from Mrs. Davis.

The story is that my wife started to become emotionally distant from me on July 2014. She was fairly upset with the way I was putting effort toward the family. However, she had always been praising her colleague (OM) and that raised concerns to me. On Aug 26 I found that she was sexting him and even a note about a sex position. I videoed the messages and confronted her. She asked me to delete them which I did. She apologied for her act and said had gone too far. However, she didn't stop contact with OM. I simply regard this as midife crisis and keep away from the communications between OM and W. Otherwise, I get unstable. And as I read about it, it is best not to confront. Yes, to draw a border but she isn't out with him all the time but always in text contact. These days she goes to the toilet or says she is texting another friend when she contacts him. I can do something on things I can control. I can't control my wife.

We have recently talked that we are in a marriage that has no passion. And she asked how long we would go like this. I said that the passion would come back. So I feel things are OK now but I miss my W. There is intimacy, conversation, future plans, relationship talks but no physical bonding. I am being patient but crying everyday.

I am changing a lot. I have cut down the hours I spend at work. I do the school runs ie take the kids to school at least 3 times a week. I listen closely to what W says and keep notes not to miss any commitments I have like buy this, do this. She has acknowledged that I have changed.

I attend to therapy and try not to sway from it but wanted to hear feedback from the group as I can see a lot of similarities. I even can guess which people will say what. I am not sure