Need help. Jefe's always confused. Pt 6

[Jefe]

I know it's pool night, I dont know that situation. I don't think she got off of work in time to go, or if she did she came home awfully early. Whatever the case she was looking to vent about something.

I'll transcribe the texts here. I know I blew it on a few responses. I should have just not responded at all. I am also trying to keep last nights spew in mind as well.

Let me back track first, she sent a text around 10 this morning that I think she was expecting a different response that what she got:

W: I want to take the girls by Roger's family around 3 on Thanksgiving Day.
M: As long as it doesn't interfere with our families, whatever.
no response after that.

Now on to this evening.

I ordered a few books on Amazon yesterday and I bought them used so instead of one charge there were 4 separate charges since they were being fulfilled by different vendors. Now the texts:

W: Damn you're Amazon crazy.
I guess she was checking the bank account. I didn't respond for awhile, I was a little busy. Besides, it was a declarative statement.

W: Hello?
W: So how are the girls?
W: So if the girls were to live with you and we got our divorce are you going to want child support from me?
W: I know you're not wanting them to live with me, is this correct?
M: I don't want a divorce. Period. But if this is the route you choose, yes I will be expecting full custody and child support.
W: Oh OK well I guess I'll have to fight you for the girls huh
W: Fine
M: I'm not going to keep them from you.
M: But they need a stable home, J*******.
M: Your lifestyle right now is not where they need to be. I don't understand whats going on with you. I don't know who you are anymore. (I probably should have not said this part.)
W: How are the girls?
M: Asleep. What are you wanting to know?
W: My lifestyle is just fine what are you talking about
W: If (D7's) legs are getting better and if she's still coughing a lot
W: (D5) if she's doing well.
W: I dont want to be with you. And you keep thinking that's going to change that's the problem.
M: Her legs are fine. She's coughing less. (D5) is as fine as she's going to be.
W: OK what does that mean?
W: She's not fine?
W: So you're just going to take everything from me, the house and the kids and my money. Wow, thanks.
W: You're such a great person
M: I'm happy for you that your life is going great. You chose this path. I'm not doing anything to you, you are leaving us.
Youre choosing to take everything from me since I don't want to be with you. You're an A$$ for that. What's new.
M: J*******, I've made a tone of mistakes. I've fought with you when I should have stood by you. I'm not trying to hurt you. I have never wanted to hurt you, but you are leaving us. This is what you are choosing.
W: I expected no less from you. I figured that's how this would go, a fight til the death. I literally hate you.
M: I'm not fighting with you. You asked a question.
W: I'm talking about the divorce you're going to do everything in your power to make it miserable and not easy. Hope you sleep well at night knowing what a piece of sh*t you are taking everything from me just because I don't want to be with you.
W: F**k you!
W: F**k you
W: I figured you wouldn't have anything to say to that
W: A$$ hole
(I probably shouldnt have offered this information up)
M: I haven't slept in months.

I have stayed out of your way. You do what you want when you want and I pay for most of it. I'm sorry you hate me. I wish you no harm.
W: I'm talking about the divorce you're going to do everything in your power to make it miserable and not easy. Hope you sleep well at night knowing what a piece of sh*t you are taking everything from me just because I don't want to be with you.

I quit responding. I texted my sponsor in the middle of this and he shut me down. We both agree that this was an inappropriate time, manner, and method for this type of discussion. Again like the lack of decorum used last month when she stated she was going to date.

I'm so mentally exhausted already before all of this. I'm sure I handled this very poorly. I should have never engaged. D5 had a melt down tonight and cried for 30-45 minutes straight before I could get out of her that she was sad because she feels like mommy is never coming home to live with us again. D7 is picking at herself and turning inward.

Man I thought we were making progress.

Let the 2x4's fly.