Yes, it sounds like you're doing it right. Good on you to avoid the money trap. Helping her out would likely look as pursuing, ironically enough.
And we all feel this same conflict when applying the DB method. Our hearts a filled with the desire to talk about our love, feelings and desires. But it's the exact opposite of what might work. Nobody responds well to professions of love from people they dislike. And our WAS dislike us at the moment. So let's STFU, like you do so well at the moment. Our pain is evidence of how far we're willing to go to save our M.
M39 D6 D3 (at S) S 2014-09 D 2016-09
"You can't start a fire sitting around, crying over a broken heart" - Bruce Springsteen.
