Well if you know you would be willing to try before a D is finalized, then focus on that, the here and now. Save the energy of thinking about what you want if it is finalized for that time. Your IC sounds great.

I hope you don't mind me freeloading advice from your IC, because Ive had this same thought on a few occasions: I wish she'd done something terrible! It seems like it would make it easier to let go. Your IC nails it by saying that we'd just have the same struggles with new issues.


Me 38, WAW 30
D11 (former marriage)
S2
T 8 years
M 3 years
BD 8/20/23
S 8/20/23