Trying Again

[Mozza]

Thanks for the update, topgunmb. I caught up with your sitch, which is interesting because my W also left me after getting a new job surrounded by young, free people about 5 years younger than her. I thought it couldn't last, but seeing that your W has been living this lifestyle for more than a year, you're making me doubt...

I don't know all that you do, but it seems like you're pursuing her. To help you understand, imagine that a coworker you don't like is pursuing you. How do you feel about the slightest hint she's giving you that she's interested? Probably repulsed. Not attracted. Your radar will be on because you think she really wants you and so you interpret everything she says as pursuing. That's what's happening with your W. She's not pleased or seduced or attracted by your pursuing. Every slightest pursuit, like initiating contact when she's unpleasant to you, will set you back. Even if you can't detach in reality, try to fake it in your interactions with her.