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I don't understand how DBing is suppose to work when you have no contact.


Hoju, because DBing works on YOU. You can't change your situation until you change you.

I got nowhere with DBing until I started doing it for me, and not as a way to get my H back.

There are LBS who DB their butts off, and their WAS still don't come back. DBing is not a guarantee to save your marriage. Rather it's more of a way to save you.

DBing is not about manipulating your W into coming back. It is about making honest changes within yourself so that if:

1. If she does come back, you are a better man and your R will have a good chance to survive.

2. If she doesn't come back, you are a better man and your new Rs will have a good chance to survive.

Either way, you win. Either way, your life will be awesome.

M:54, H:55
T:33, M:27
12/13 BD: EA
01/14 BD: PA, H leaves
03/14 H & OW break up
05/14 H says he will file for D
08/14 H initiates D
09/14 H wants to R
12/14 Still bungling our way through R