The Goddess and GUBU: Square Dancing at the Triple GGG Ranch

[GoatGal]

Jim,

He's a bright man, so yes, I think he does. I fear he doesn't believe he is capable.
And he may well be right about that, unfortunately.

I have decided that I am not willing to spell it out for him either.

He's going to need to decide what's important, and make permanent changes in himself because it's the right thing to do, because HE wants to be better and to do better as a partner to me or anyone.

I will not ask him to do it for me. I will not ask him to change anything about himself that he doesn't care enough to do. There is nothing to be gained by that.
He will only resent me for it, or continue to do hurtful things while getting better at hiding it from me.

If he is unwilling to be the kind of man I need, that's his choice. I will move on.
I have given him the best chance I could to allow him to come to some kind of realization.

I'm not "done" yet, but as time goes by I see that a life without him won't be the end of the world. He still has time. If he is interested in a life with me, then he should be doing something about it here pretty soon.

And that ^^^ is me setting boundaries for what I will or will not accept without trying to get him to do anything.
The consequence for him failing to get his act together is that I will no longer be in his life.

That's his choice, but the outcome is under MY control.


--(G)GGG