Need help. Jefe's always confused. Pt 6

[twinmom]

It sounds like she wants a fairy tale. It also sounds like she may have some co dependency/self esteem issues.

Take this from someone who was THERE and by that I mean ***I*** had self esteem/dependency issues. I thought that is EXACTLY what I wanted from a marriage. But as I started getting "healthy" in an emotional way I realized a few things.

1. I didn't really want those things, yes I want to feel loved but being placed on a pedestal and having your husband fall all over you gets old REALLY quick and you just start to see them as pathetic.

2. Even if she didn't tire of it quickly it would be almost impossible to keep up. Life and stress happen and fairy tales are just that, a tale.......

My advice to you is to be loving but you need to be firm and set/MAINTAIN those boundaries. Stop talking/worrying about if she is going to church or not. You go if you want to.