DBing is counterintuitive. It tells you to do things that seem strange. When I say let her go, I mean from your heart and mind. Not to forget she ever existed. The more you think of her and what you had the more difficult it will be. The longer it will take for you to heal. What we all do in the beginning is to cut a wound and pour lemon on it. It is not helpful.
I get it that you want her back. It doesn't work that way. If she suspects that any changes you make are to win her back, she will be very angry and you will lose any chances you had.
What I have seen here as to what works is to look and be happy. Live your life as if you have moved on to better and bigger things. Not to shut the door on her. She needs to believe that she is losing you. Hope that makes sense
M 53 D 20 Separated 6/22/11 moved out 10/24 Together 26 yrs Married 16 W Filed for D 7/21/11 Served 9/6/11 D final 8/28/12
“Failure is not fatal, but failure to change might be.”
