Gogofo - no longer piecing 2nd BD - pt. 2

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Tonight is our 7th wedding anniversary and thankfully we are at a pretty good spot right now in our relationship. We have both been smiling and laughing and happy around each other.

Friday the W went out with her friends from work. Later that evening around 10:30 she sent me a text seeing if I was still awake. A couple messages back and forth and then she asked if I wanted company. I said it would be great and she came over and stayed the night, second time since the beginning of the year. Not going to lie, it felt great. She made the effort and wanted to be there. We both woke up happy and the kids were beyond the moon happy when they woke up.

Saturday we bummed around the house and then she went out to go shopping with her friends and do some work. We met up later, went to the grocery store and then to her house to make dinner. We had a wonderful night and seem to be connecting at a more natural pace now then we have been before.

Sunday we went to the movies together as a family, then back to my house for the kids and I while the W went to work. Back together again for dinner and some family snuggling on the couch.

Tonight I will be making dinner for us while she has meetings. I am sure I will be spending the evening there again as we will most likely have a late night and some drinks to celebrate our anniversary.

She keeps making comments about needing to get our house listed to sell, and asking me how much time it might take to get it ready, etc. This is her way of saying that she wants me to move in and is feeling good about our place right now.

We have been more vocal about how nice it is to spend time together and about what the future may hold. She has really been talking a lot about what she would like to do in the future and making plans with me or including me in those plans. She has not done this for a while, it shows that she is progressing in how she feels about me too.

One thing is that she wants to get another dog, an issue in the past that has caused conflict with us. So she has been asking me what I think and if it is a good idea, etc. I jokingly said it was her idea and her life. She replied that the dog would be for a family and it effects more than just her.

The pace of being together is a little faster than I had anticipated, but the progress feels natural and unforced. She even seems to be reaching out and enjoying herself more than other times in our attempts to work on us.

I will have to seek help from my DB Coach to see what she thinks about the pace and us addressing relationship issues. Sometimes I feel like I need to bring up things to work on, but then I remember that my Mr. Fix-it mode gets nothing accomplished except pain and back tracking.