BD and 6 months later PA confirmed (2)

[Bunches]

So shocking turn of events...at least for me. I was expecting a full on argument at some point about this whole move. W messages me around lunch wanting to talk on the phone. I call her and she is a mess, having not slept all night going over how to work this out. She consulted a L this morning and sounds like he didn't paint a picture of a lot of options for her. She insisted on telling me first that she was only even considering this because all things said and done, its the best thing for S support. She would like us to arrange the D with custody arrangement so S and I will move to NC for this job and she would like the following stipulations given:

1. I get Sole Physical custody, not Sole Custody (which had already been said)
2. S spends 1 week visit before or after Christmas each year
3. S spends Spring Break with her every year
4. S spends 1 month with her each summer while I visit instead
5. Insists on phone time every night (which I can live with if its flexible and if she is willing to provide the means)
6. Discounted child support to allow the travel to and from (hotel stay / gas / etc..)

Not what I was expecting but fairly reasonable. Of course she said she isn't agreeing yet. She just wants to get some thoughts out on the table and agreed to before signing. Sounds like she is thinking about trying to abandon life here to move up there when she can but sounds really torn about it. It was a sad call but I kept to myself. She was sobbing the entire time.

I guess it sounds like I'll be migrating to the "Divorced but not done" forum next month. I don't know. My detached feeling these days has me kind of wondering if I'm reaching 'done' faster than I would have expected. Its just not hitting me that hard anymore.