Is my W open to answering any questions that I have? Yes, except she is not super forthcoming with the details.

How truthful has she been? Pretty truthful although she still insists that her A with the OM was an EA and not a PA. Ironically, she said that the EA is far worse since for women it is all about the emotional connection anyway.

Has she cut off all tie with the OM?...I don't know honestly. I am pretty sure she has not seen him in weeks and probably stopped the PA weeks before that. She told me 10 days ago that it had been two weeks since she last spoke with him.

Ultimately, my W is not where I want her to be. I really don't need all of the details and do not need her to admit that she had a PA. What I need is to know what she has cut him out of her life completely.


Me: 40, W: 40
M: 15, T: 18
D - 10, S - 7
D announcement 6/7/2014
A discovered 7/20/2014 (but denied by W)
Still living together and sharing same bed