My oldest sister is visiting for the week and its nice to have her around. She's from the military branch of the family and always gets my household running very efficiently when she's here. She also takes the long view of the situation with STBX, which makes her a better sounding board than my other relatives who just want him to disappear.
Anyway - we were discussing just how much STBX wants to spend time with the kids. He skipped last Saturday's soccer game (with no explanation), and while he makes a lot of noise about wanting to spend time with them, he seemed pretty happy with the idea of every other weekend (if he makes detective his schedule will allow this) My sister was saying that in these situations it's not uncommon for the dad to drift away and spend less and less time with them (which was confirmed by a few Google searches). What does this mean? Nothing right now, I guess it's just one more thing to be prepared for. I will be interested to see if he follows through with co parent counseling and what his behavior will be like.
STBX continues to be super pleasant as we go back and forth via email about the minutiae of the divorce settlement.
Alas, D6 seems to be starting to react. I'm not sure how much of her behavior is related to the situation and how much is just regular 6 year old sassiness, but this weekend she started saying "no" to me for the first time and really dug her heels in. Unfortunately she told me that Daddy told her not to complain about the drive to his house or Mommy wouldn't let her visit and not to tell me they talked about it. Good Gravy - his judgement is lacking right now - not only to have that conversation in the first place, but D6 has always immediately reported to me anything he says to keep a secret.
I'm determined to have a good PMA this week. Have been sick with a cold and the self reflection about my lack of vulnerability last week along with dealing with the divorce/refinance /regular work stress was really sapping my energy. Time to perk up.
