I've dropped the rope....

[Sotto]

So, given the above developments, I should expect some contact from H soon - saying that he has decided the M is over and wants a divorce. I need to think about how I respond.

In UK law, there needs to be grounds for divorce if you haven't been separated for 2 years yet. One of these is adultery, and I could file now on that basis. However, I have always said (to myself) that I won't be the one to file until/unless I'm 'done,' As far as I understand H has no grounds to file. It would have to be me. Any thoughts?

Also, I think I should make a solicitor appt now. Our friend told me that H expects us to sell our main house and I receive half of that - and that's all. But we have other assets, which probably total another £500k plus. He believes all of these are 'his.' But I believe the law sees them as 'ours.' They have all been built up during our relationship. So, I need to understand how all of that works too....just in case.

Any comments/thoughts would be really welcome at this stage guys...