Sounds like the convo went as well as it could have done, and you handled things well. There are some 'reality' bites in there for your W and it sounds like she isn't finding that easy. Well done to you....
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T 13 M 7 Me 48 H 46 SS 15 BD 7.14 PA D final 5.16 (H filed)
We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus